Amol Sir Learnings - 04th May 2021

Do you have people in your life that make your life miserable?

What do you do with them?

It could be your friends, co-workers, family members, partners, and/or your boss.

We often feel obligated to help others around us because we make commitments and promises to them.

We are good in making commitments, Isn’t it ?

It might be commitment to a friend that we will spend time with them.

Or it can be a financial commitment - like a loan to a friend.

We make commitments to girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife.

We make commitments to work at a company and serve them.

The list goes on.

And most of the time, we feel like we are pulled in all directions, and because of that, we are tired and exhausted.

We feel like we are being drained of our energy and our own health, career growth and financial growth is getting stagnated.

This is how we feel most of the time with other people.

They make our life miserable

We do not break our commitments because we feel that we will disappoint other people.

From our childhood, we have been taught not to break commitments.

They told us - serve others, make others happy and sacrifice ourselves to keep our commitments. They will honour you.

If we break our commitments - they call us selfish and narrow-minded.

I do not agree with this.

We cannot let other people rule our life and tell us what to do.

Honour means nothing without personal satisfaction and fulfillment.

And focusing on ourselves is not a bad thing.

Nurturing ourselves is the most important task we have for our future self. Because if we do not care for our future self, no one else will. I learned it the hard way.

What most people forget that there is another person here who is suffering.

That person who suffers is your future. Do not hurt him/her.

What most people conveniently forget is that sometimes to keep up your commitments, you have to break the commitment to your future self.

For example, in a job, if my boss asks me to work extra hours for the company - I would be keeping up a commitment to the company I work for, but breaking a commitment to my own future.

If I work longer hours, I cannot build my career for the future and might even become mentally and physically unhealthy. My future will suffer.

If you are in a toxic relationship, your partner and the whole world will say that - you have to keep that commitment. You have to keep the promise. You have to stay - even if it is not good for you.

They will call you selfish if you break the promise.

But... you are breaking a promise to your future self when you decide to keep the promise to others anyway.

Which promise is more important?

To others?

Or your future self?

Your future self of course.

The most successful people in this world are the ones who realized this.

They focus on themselves and that's the best promise to keep.

The best commitment there is.

A commitment worthy of keeping.

Your life will be very simple and easy if you care about only one commitment - your future self.

You will feel better about yourself with every passing day.

When the future comes to the present, you will feel great. You will feel successful.

But you might be asking me: “Amol, isn't it just being selfish?"

No.

Remember that you can only serve others when you are in a capacity to serve others.

You have to serve yourself first.

In an airplane, the air hostess instructs us that in case of cabin pressure loss, please wear the oxygen mask yourself first before helping other people around you. Because if you faint because of lack of oxygen, you can't help yourself, nor others.

Once you take care of yourself, keep up your commitments, you can later start serving others.

Let the other people wait. Because your future is in queue to be served first.

My life changed when I decided to focus on myself.

I broke all my commitments that I would give to others

I quit my job

I quit procrastination

I quit Laziness

I stopped doing parties

I stopped wasting time with friends which were not adding values in my life

For a while, I felt lonely and scared

Do you know what is worse than hitting rock-bottom? To always live in the fear of hitting the rock bottom.

A lot of people do not have the courage to change course in their life because they are afraid of hitting rock-bottom. They convince themselves, "something is better than nothing". But remember, nothing is better than non-sense.

If you want to create something wonderful, you need to first destroy what you have - to make space for the new. Nature always works like that.

And do you know what is the best part about hitting rock-bottom?

You can only go up from there.

I was 32 and I started rebuilding my life. I might have lost my 20s to mistakes, but it is ok because I learned from them.

I started doing morn g rituals

I started reading books

I started investing in my personal development

I started taking 10X Massive Actions

And it kept getting better - one day at a time.

Today, I have rebuilt everything back from scratch.

I am fit and healthy. (Touchwood).

I am mentally happy.

I run a business that provides value to 1000s of mentees

My parents are happier now

I have a strong bond with may wife. She understands my mission and she supports me

I am happy for myself and only from this place I can make the world a better place.

The world doesn't take from me. I give to the world.

So that's my thought for today.

LASER FOCUS ON YOURSELF!

Keep the promise to yourself - even if it means breaking promises to people around you.

Remember that keeping commitments to others many times means that you have to break the commitment to your future self, and it is not worth it.

People who yield to the social pressures and demands end up miserable people - and in the long term, they become useless to themselves and the world around them.

Time to break commitments.

Time to break promises.

Time to disappoint people.

Believe me. It is for your own good and for the good of the world.

Have a great day

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